The Art Of Erotic Gift Giving - High Quality Contemporary Jewellery To Delight

With busy lives, making time for romance might not be high on your daily priorities.

A never ending list of responsibilities makes it hard to find time for yourself, let alone thinking about plans to have fun with your partner, but relationship expert Esther Perel believes that marriage is not the end of romance but the beginning. 

Esther believes that love enjoys knowing everything about each other but desire needs mystery.

Too much love in a relationship without enough desire results in a beautiful friendship. The term "erotic intelligence" was coined by her to describe the art of keeping desire in long term relationships. 

She believes that a reluctance to celebrate love is a red flag in a relationship, whether that is an anniversary, birthday or Valentine's Day.

Sometimes, the stress of daily life and the inevitable niggles that couples have make the idea of being romantic seem forced and ridiculous. 

To rekindle the fire, she suggests creating an erotic self care plan which starts with making a list of what turns you on and what turns you off.

It's not a list of sexual acts but a list of things that give you energy and vitality and things which drain you. For example, turn offs could be "I check email before bed; when I worry about the kids; when I stress about work or the state of my finances; when I overeat or don't exercise; when I don't take care of myself."

Turn ons, things that energise you might be "going into nature; dancing; pampering; connecting to body"

Eroticism, when viewed from the perspective of understanding what gives you energy and what drains you, becomes much more complex and personalised.

The cliches of tacky gifts and meaningless cards become unnecessary as you explore and understand what gives you pleasure. It's not something that happens on just one day of the year but a commitment you make to enjoying your life in a way that is authentic and uniquely personal to you. Esther's approach to pleasure as an integral part of being a fully formed adult is refreshing.

In our contemporary jewellery designs, we have created meaning that connects people to the things they love.

It might be a romantic bond you share, the friendships that make life better or the values you want other people to know are important to you. Celebrating the things in life that energise you with a piece of jewellery that is a lasting and daily reminder of who you are and what's important to you can be very powerful, not only for the person who receives it as a gift but also for the person who has given it. A gift of an engagement ring says, I want to be with you forever and when it is worn it replies, I do too. A wedding ring says, I am prepared to work through the tough times because I want to share my life with you. An anniversary gift or Valentine's gift is a reminder that those promises still matter. A gift for a friend on their birthday shows that you are glad that they are part of your life and appreciate the connection you share. There's even a growing trend of people acknowledging the importance of friendships and placing them on the same level of importance as those they share with their partner. 

Gift giving is an important part of any social bond.

It is a declaration of who is important to us. We don't give gifts to strangers or people we don't like. We only give them to people we love and respect. People that we want to keep in our lives and that we want to show our appreciation for. People that it gives us pleasure to make happy. 

Commercialisation of Valentine's Day with cheap, poor quality gifts has tarnished the true meaning of celebrating romantic love. We need to get back to basics of understanding gift giving as a way to make meaningful connections.

"The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives"

How lucky we are to be the first generation encouraged by science to explore what gives us pleasure and prioritise it as a necessary and important part of our daily lives.