If you are looking for something a bit different for your wedding that makes it stand out from the copycat trends, then adding in something new that your guests may not have heard before is a good way to show that your marriage is more than just an expensive party.
I love Pablo Neruda's poems. He seems to pull out of the depths of his soul emotions so dark and real and yet there seems no strain at all in the creative process. His writing has honesty and integrity that only comes with being completely at ease with your dark side.
I don't love you as if you were the salt-rose, topaz
or arrow of carnations that propagate fire:
I love you as certain dark things are loved,
secretly, between the shadow and the soul.
I love you as the plant that doesn't bloom and carries
hidden within itself the light of those flowers,
and thanks to your love, darkly in my body
lives the dense fragrance that rises from the earth.
I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where,
I love you simply, without problems or pride:
I love you in this way because I don't know any other way of loving
but this, in which there is no I or you,
so intimate that your hand upon my chest is my hand,
so intimate that when I fall asleep it is your eyes that close
Here's some ideas for how to build the theme of a wedding from the starting point of a poem.
The poem talks about darkness, honesty and integrity. Here's a picture of wedding rings I was commissioned to make from a collection that I have called Hero and I think they fit perfectly in this theme.
The pieces in the Hero collection are heated until the metal melts and then it cools in a unique pattern that is different every time. The heating blackens the silver and it sometimes takes on the appearance of slate. I also hammer, scratch, drill and score the metal. One is set with a white diamond and the other with a black diamond like yin yang, two opposing forces that make up life.
Moving on to other aspects of the day, this is an easy poem to find inspiration for the flower. Why not suprise your guests and add some dense fragrance to your day with herbs instead of the traditional flowers?
With all that greenery, you will stand out beautifully in white. From the poem "Hidden within itself the light of those flowers" - this dress would make a show stopping entrance, creating a drama of layers with you at its centre.
While bridal shops will follow trends, designers will inspire them. This is your chance to have a handmade dress so why not make the most of it? This dress is from Ashi, who launched in 2007 in Beruit. Look at independent designers and find something no one is expecting.
Wedding favours can be a bit predictable. Why not give something useful that will be good for the planet? Test tubes filled with seeds will give your guests something they can plant to remind them of your day - "dense fragrance that rises from the earth"
These are just a couple of ideas to get your mind going. Choose your favourite poem and see what it inspires you to add to your wedding day.